Wounds from the past are significant barriers to reclaiming your power. Those wounds are the following:
Rejection is a profound wound because the one who suffers from rejection feels uncertain in his or her being, and especially in their God given right to exist. In terms of behavior, they often have been so badly treated that they doubt the right to that existence. They seek solitude because if they receive a (what we would consider) a normal amount of attention, they would be afraid of not knowing what to do.
People with the injustice wound are usually rigid and lack flexibility. Often a perfectionist and envious. These individuals tend to cut themselves off from their feelings and often cross their arms. They try to be perfect and justify themselves constantly. They find it difficult to admit that they have problems. They often doubt their choices. They prefer order and tend to control themselves while simultaneously demanding a lot of others.
People with the humiliation wound are often ashamed of themselves and will take no part in shaming others. They think they are dirty or unclean. They don’t want to recognize and assume their sensuality and their love of the pleasures associated with the senses. That is why they often compensate and reward themselves with food. This sufferer often gains weight quickly to give others truly little reason to find them attractive, making it even more difficult to enjoy their senses.
The wound experienced in the case of abandonment is the second deepest after that of rejection because they both affect the being at a profound level. Those who suffer from abandonment do not feel emotionally nourished enough. They think that they cannot do anything on their own and regularly needs someone to support them. They tend to dramatize a lot: the smallest little incident takes on gigantic proportions.
The wound of betrayal is intimately related to the wound of abandonment.
Very uncompromising, they want to show others what they are capable of. They often interrupt and respond before a person is finished. When things don’t go fast enough to their liking, they become angry. They hate not being trusted and do not always keep their commitments and promises or do little to force themselves to keep them.
By being aware of your behaviors and wounds, you will get to know yourself better and gain an understanding of why you tend to behave in specific ways.
To your success,
William J. McClelland CLC, CNC, MPNLP
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